I'm sad that I haven't even had enough time lately to get on here and connect with myself...writing has always been so therapeutic for me. My feelings and the ink are synonomous-when I'm happy, angry, sad, whatever-I just let my emotions bleed onto the page like the ink I'm working with.
Some of the material I've been reading lately have been contributing to the mumbo-jumbo rambling around in my head. Gloria Naylor's Mama Day and Amy Tan's Joy Luck Club are two examples of instances where I felt some of my internal fears jump off a page and into my reality. What do you guys think about motherhood, domesticity, the struggle between feminine autonomy and the desire for marriage and a family?
Do you think it's possible to be both a strong, independant individual and a partner willing to sacrifice for his/her family at the expense of themselves? A goal oriented career focused person and supermom? Am I wrong in the sense that I'm unwilling to compromise-that it want it all and refuse to weigh one over the other? I wonder...
Don't get me wrong, I'm only 21 years old. Marriage w/ children isn't anywhere on my radar. But I just find it curious, especially from a literary perspective, the way characters are portrayed when the plot line is written. Are we meant to exist in such extremes? Must I be the successful CEO who neglects her children? Or the doting soccer mom, lunchbags and laundry in tow, who lacks a career that makes me feel that I fulfill my duty to my society and do justice to my education? Or even justice to myself, shit. Both seem like lackluster and dismal existances. The double standard is brutal. Do men even consider this madness? Ever have to prioritize goals and dreams? Hmm, glad I got awhile to figure all this out. Seems like another one of those instances where having a penis gets you perks.
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Ahahaha, well ... yeah. It does have perks let me tell ya! I think about such things myself as well - prioritizing is a bitch and I do think I want kids *eventually* but definitely not anytime soon.
ReplyDeleteEverything I am doing now sets the base for me eventually having to provide for not just myself but a family. I don't think you really get a choice in deciding what comes first, it is usually one or the other. Unless of course you're Will Smith and can juggle work/family [seemingly] with ease.